beauty

Why self-care and selfish should go together.

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Let’s remove the guilt

and start embracing the importance of self-care. And “yes” putting everything on pause can sound selfish. But what’s wrong with that?

It’s not like I’m suggesting that you let children go hungry, ignore the home, forget to return important calls or leave a burning pot on the stove.

You need this!

With all the stress and ugly in the world you need time and a place to refresh.

Blessed is she who knows her worth and is esteemed, WOMAN is her kind.
— Hoomalamalama

Think about the check engine light on your dashboard and imagine that you’re too busy to fix it, leaving the task for tomorrow. Eventually tomorrow becomes a week, then a month. Without warning, while you’re driving to an important event, the engine starts smoking and it stalls. Right in the middle of a four way traffic sign

Your initial attitude is frustration, anger and blame but it warned you. Is that really fair?

Intentional Self-Care

Intentional self-care is making time for your self and not letting anything get in your way. If an emergency should occur, take care of it then return to your plan. (As soon as it’s possible.)

Don’t expect people around you to understand. Why? Because most humans care about things that involve them and your self-care routine doesn’t and it shouldn’t include anyone but you.

You’re not meant to share this moment with anyone and you need to be selfish. This is a sacred time set aside to nourish and protect your greatest investment… your body. (Mind and soul included.)

Plan it, Do it, Done

We can talk all day about what we want to do but doing is so much better. The previous blogpost I wrote about keeping your promises. I was referring to the promise you make to yourself. If you plan to do something, do it!

Below is a few pages from my 2021 planner spread and my theme was terrarium. It represents an ideal environment where I am the creator of its anatomy.

Mālama Kou Kino

If you take care of your body it will take care of you. It really is that simple.

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Answer the prompts in the comment section below. Take action and be proactive.

  • What does self-care look like to you?

  • When will you start implementing, “Mālama Kou Kino?”


Special Invitation

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The art of focus.

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Five [5] tips to keep your eyes on the prize!

How many of us made a concrete decision to eat healthy, have positive self-talk, exercise more or quit something? [My hands are up.]  Then we come to a fork in the road and our simple decision get's challenged, we adjust our choices to include an amendment.

EX: I will eat clean in the New Year! Then something happens so we adjust.

EX: I will eat clean in the New Year on weekday's! Again, we're challenged and we make another adaptation.

EX: I will eat clean in the New Year on weekday's but only Monday and Wednesday.

Focus is a muscle that is created through the flexing of choices. Every decision has the ability to impoverish or prosper you, in mind, body & soul.
— Ho'omalamalama

Here's where the fun begins, let's dive into the, "5 tips to keep your eyes on the prize."

 
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STOP! Breathe, and observe. Chances are that you already know what is getting in the way of your success. 

Is it a person, place, thing or any other noun? 

Do you have control over this particular situation?

Is this situation in control over you?

 
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Now grab your trusty journal, I use my Make Mahalo planner, and write down,

"WHY"

that person, place or thing is distracting you.

Why are they or it allowed to distract you? For me it was my iPhone, all those push notifications, which I allowed to distract me. Children and spouse fall into this category sometimes.

 
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There are three categories that every distraction will fall into.

  1. Life threatening. This defines itself and I'm pretty sure that you won't need an example.

  2. Avoidance. [One of my evils.] When you do everything except what you should be doing.

  3. Out of your control. Not life threatening but it has put a hurdle in your smooth path. What other's do to you.

 
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Counter all the negativity.

Write a list of all the things that are important to you. What get's you up in the morning?

Perhaps you feel compelled or called to complete a certain task. What is it?

Maybe you want to complete a task that someone else started but didn't get to finish.

 
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For every "WHAT" you wrote on #4 write a "WHY. " Here lies the heart of your motivation. If you lack inspiration or feel shadowed by discouragement, then this step is extremely important.

I wrote a previous blogpost called, "How strong is your WHY?"

 

I'm doing a whole new series about FOCUS on my Instagram page. Using images that I've take to inspire the subconscious mind to persevere. If you're ready to surround your life with awesome intention and focus join here.  

READY TO FOCUS? HERE ARE THE BENEFITS

  • Success

  • Health

  • Goals Reached

  • Joy of Completion

  • New Heights

  • Career Improvement

  • Business Growth

  • And many more...

 

TIME TO INFLUENCE OTHERS

The best way to make sure that you've learned something is to go out and start teaching it to others. Share the 5-Tips with three other friends. Better yet, do the writing exercises with them. I've included a link below that you can click and it will send a message to your friends on twitter.

Tell me about your experience with the 5-Tips, Comment below. 

8 Characteristics of BEAUTY

The secret that will...  

Unlock your potential and give you wings to soar over obstacles.

I grew up believing that Beauty was a physical feature you were born with. Than I became a young adult and was convinced Beauty was in the soul of a grateful human being. However this changed when I met someone who shared a profound insight that I reveal in my ebook.   

I pondered for twenty years [yes 20 years] thinking about this question, "How do I walk in beauty?" In the mean time I traveled the world teaching Polynesian performing arts, working in cultural and holistic careers but never forgetting those words, "Walk In Beauty." In all honesty I was compelled and inspired to write my observations into a book from 1995 to 2001 but I couldn't. 

Eventually I got married and had a few kamali'i - little ones in Hawaiian language. By a few I mean seven [yes 7 children] who were about a year to two years apart. Motherhood and my career as a holistic fitness instructor kept me busy but when my oldest daughter was about to turn thirteen I remembered a previous endeavor. To write, edit and publish, "Walk In Beauty." After all, thirteen is a huge step away from childhood and my baby/big girl would need this book.  

So in 2016, during a year of extreme hardships [I'm saving that for another day] I decided to buckle down and write. The goal was to create a manual that would unravel Beauty's Secrets while combining creativity and self expression [aka: journaling]. I published it on March 15, 2017 on my youngest son's fourth birthday. Through much prayer and a bunch of edits the 5-Realms of Beauty existed in the form of a mobile friendly ebook.  



After publishing the book I started to define characteristics that seem flow among each and every realm. I picked out eight that really stood out to me. It was kind of a checklist for "Walk In Beauty" or what I call the WIB-Checklist.

Which of these 8 characteristics do you identify with?  

  • Self-Love: the ability to care for and nurture yourself.

  • Infectious Joy: happiness comes from within you, you manufacture joy.

  • Peaceful Mindset: because your foundation is built on self-love you can weather life.

  • Patient: time is a teacher and the journey is more important than the destination.

  • Kind Nature: because kindness is the most attractive commodity in any culture.

  • Consistent: diligence and perseverance are key factors in everything you do.

  • Self-Mastery: the number one attribute and this is why you walk in beauty.

  • Harmony: maintaining a sense of community in every arena of your life.    

I'll leave you with a little bit of my daily holistic practice of art-journaling. PEACE Be the Journey.