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Making BIG life decisions from intuition.

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What’s Intuition?

Intuition: [Noun] Ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. An instinctive feeling, often associated as a gut feeling. Every culture has a unique way to understand this phenomenon known as intuition but in Hawaii we call it our Na’au, gut.

What my elders taught me.

My Na Kupuna raised me to know that there’s a spiritual and physical side to everything. For example, we have a physical gut and a spiritual one. Both are important because they digest what we consume. Our gut tells us when something is sour or wrong and it can sense where we’re content.

Our spiritual gut digest

the energy or spirit around us. It can sense the intentions of others with precision. We’re all born with it. Remember when you took your first breath? Maybe not. But that was your innate knowing, your intuition in its infancy. You trusted it. Something inside you said, “Breathe” and you didn’t question or doubt yourself. Ah, life was simple.

Are you wondering, why do we make bad choices?

 
 

We forgot how to listen

I was walking around my favorite garden shop Ravenna Gardens reflecting on some major decisions I made last year. In a heartbeat I knew I needed to get a divorce and didn’t waiver or doubt my decision.

You have to practice listening.

It’s not so much that we forget how to listen but that we’re completely distracted by

  1. our devices

  2. everyones opinions (social media)

  3. everyone’s a professional (social media)

  4. everyone’s selling something (everywhere)

  5. self doubt due to the previous four reasons.

Everything boils down to one thing

TRUST

Do you trust yourself? The truth is that we’ve allowed other’s to impress their ideas and unfulfilled goals on us.

But what do you want?

You always know

You always know what you need to do at any given time but the choice might feel overwhelming. Especially when your making BIG life choices that will impact others.

The choice might feel uncomfortable but

will it be the BEST decision for your future self?

Think about the future when making decisions and lean in on your own gut feeling.

Here’s my go-to list when “making up my mind”

  • trust myself

  • breathe

  • pray

  • keep it to myself

  • be cautious of who I share my situation with, remember that anything you share in confidence can and may be used against you

Here’s my practical list

  • Write down my BIG decision

  • Then work backwards and put it into small steps

  • Do one small step every day

Visit places

It was my saving grace to visit places that inspired me. As I faced my trauma I knew that I didn’t want to remain in a space of victim-hood. I found it helpful to change up my physical space, in order to get my head in a better frame of mind. I had some major decisions and a walk in the garden boost my spirit which improved my soul and lifted my body. Not to mention that I added a few wonderful books to my collection.

Comment Below: How do you make BIG decisions?

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Divorce was my deliverance.

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Here’s what happened…

 
 

I didn’t touch my blog or newsletter for 17-months.

Yikes!

I found myself navigating a divorce, along with unforeseen situations.

My intention was to revisit and complete the uploads but I couldn’t bring myself to wrap it up. Now I’m the type of person who likes to finish what she started but my plate was full. I went from being a full-time freelancer into getting a job and managing single parent life.

It was a blessing in disguise.

I know that it might sound counter intuitive to say that I’m grateful for the divorce, after all I preach aloha, ‘ohana, wellness and divorce sounds completely opposite. However in my case it was long overdue and in the best interest of my children..

How it happened sucked but the fact that it’s over makes all of my previous experiences a necessary step.

Divorce taught me

  1. Follow your gut/intuition.

  2. The only opinion that matters is my own and my children’s feelings.

  3. Protect the circle, you and your children. Be alert on who’s speaking into your lives.

  4. Make a list and do it, regardless on how you feel. Don’t make decisions based on emotions. Follow the plan.

  5. Set up an award after every hard and difficult task. Mine was a taro latte with boba.

How I moved on.

Some days I drove to the water and watched the waves and on other days I went to the hot room at my local yoga studio. I didn’t cry much, I was too angry to cry so I had to learn how to forgive and release. Eventually I cried which felt good.

My spirituality didn’t waiver and I’m grateful to my grandmother who taught me how to walk in faith. Outside of my sister and brother-in-law, I had a consistent connection with my parents and my children’s Godparents. Even my church stepped up and I’ll always appreciate my pastor, Ashley Wilkerson, who told me, “I’m not one of those pastors who’ll tell you to stay in a broken marriage.” To which I said “AMEN” because the Christian faith will pressure women to stay in a toxic relationship but

gone are those days.

He can detox away from my children and me. Let me add that it’s important for you to know who is for you.

UPDATE:

I’m teaching an afterschool program and designed another program for a homeless shelter. Moving forward is important because YOU are meant for so much more.

Much ALOHA and remember to Walk Inn Beauty

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How to unburden yourself from toxic energy.

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Have you had enough?

What do you do when the weight of toxic energy suffocates your creativity, productivity, sanity and health?

Lessons from REV. MLK Jr.

Don’t kid yourself and think that the world isn’t after your peace-of-mind because it is.

Have you heard of the term, “Misery loves company” because it’s true.

As I reflect…

Looking back on the Civil Rights Movement you can see a pattern of hope over adversity. It might be pinned against the ugly faces of moral corruption but it’s there.

[Here’s my IG post on the subject.]

“When the weight of negative vices strip away your joy it’s time to unburden yourself. Choose self preservation.”
— Ho'omālamalama

When enough is enough

I cannot imagine the pressure that Rev. MLK Jr faced. On one side they had every right to be angry and fight back but what would that accomplish? He was constantly bullied to react.

  • React to racism but what did he choose?

  • React to bullies but what did he do?

  • React to threats but what did he embrace?

Truth be known,

None of us, not even Greta Thunberg, face what he faced and paid the ultimate price… his life.

It’s not my goal to bring up facts about the events around Rev. MLK Jr. but to step back and take a look at some of his noteworthy quotes to summarize the answer to my opening remark…

How to un-burden yourself from toxic energy.

I chose to separate the words UN and BURDEN because it represents a bridge. In my opinion you will have to create a bridge of hope to walk across and get away from the vices of hate. Because at the end of the day, no matter the label, it’s all hate. And what dispels hate? LOVE of course!

Let LOVE ❤️ IN

I’m not talking about romantic love…

That can make one seem desperate and attract the wrong type of advances. One that may damage the soul. NO, I’m not talking about romance but something with intrinsic value.

SELF LOVE

The ability to VALUE and find worthiness when looking at your reflection in the mirror. Love is the strongest energy known to mankind yet we don’t use it to protect ourselves or deflect toxic arrows.

  • When someone messages hate, block them.

  • If someone wants to remind you of your past, remove them.

  • Stop giving toxic people access to your mind and most of all your subconscious.

Love = Light

Have you joined a wellness community or some type of group or mastermind that emulates your desire to live in peace? Love needs action to dispel hate. Let me repeat,

Love needs action.

It’s not enough to wish, dream or play the victim when it comes to the burden of wickedness. You don’t have to stay there and there are things you can do, small steps, to improve your mindset and will your body to take action.

Question is

How badly do you want to un-burden toxic energy?

And are you ready to make a move?

Believe in love

Don’t give up on LOVE

 
 

Join our Tribe

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Strive to reach the highest.

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Kūlia i ka nu’u

Stand

Be Bold

Be Proud

Be Firm

Be Brave

Be Valiant

Unwavering

Powerful

Courageous

Do it afraid!

Reach

Be Flexible

Be Curious

Be Adventurous

Be Hopeful

Be Confident

Excellent

Outstanding

Marvelous

Exceptional

“With great spirit and fortitude one can truly achieve Kūlia I ka nu’u.”
— Ho'omālamalama (Hawaiian quote attributed to Queen Kapi'olani)

Sunsets @ Kohala

I took this picture while watching the sunset near Kohala, thinking about the future. When an old saying came to my mind, “Kūlia i ka nu’u!” Roughly translated, strive for the pinnacle or highest.

Prayers in the wind

So many of our ancestors prayed these words into the wind, hoping it would find our ears and rest on our hearts. Not to settle but become the best.

To overcome adversity, achieve good things and leave a legacy. 

Kū: To stand and rise up.

Nu’u: The highest point.

What does it all mean?

New possibilities

For me it is the seed and source of why I became a holistic fitness and lifestyle coach. I wanted to become a catalyst for positive change and help others Kūlia i ka nu’u. To follow in the steps of the healers within my family but through a different path. One that would involve a dance style other than Hula and incorporate multimedia platforms instead of the lauhala matted floors of a hale. (Lauhale: weaving material. Hale: house)

creating a “Good Vibes Only Tribe”

Through dance fitness I see women groove without a care while burning calories. They begin to feel positive changes within their bodies. With mindfulness prompts and coaching I witness how they manifest goals. But the best part is hearing how their lives are inspiring others.

For Native Women & their Community

I’m grateful for the opportunity to work with SPIPA and serve the women of Chehalis, Nisqually, Shoalwater Bay, Skokomish and Squaxin Island. With their support I created a coaching program which includes in-person, live-stream, blog post, podcast, fit journal and so much more.

You don’t have to be enrolled in a tribe to join our tribe. (aka ‘Ohana)

The program is called WholelisticFit, “Fitness for your mind, body and soul.” The goal is to create a holistically fit-minded community.

Kūlia i ka nu’u…

 
 

Why diet?

Body Strategy

(noun a plan of action designed to achieve a major goal in relationship to your physical wellbeing)

What is "Body Strategy" and why have one?

USA is a disease-first nation. Let me explain.

It's based off the idea that you have to wait for sickness or disease before taking care of yourself.

Which goes with the thought process, "Go ahead you're young, LIVE."

Having a body strategy is the complete opposite.

Think PROACTIVE

Not REACTIVE

A strategy allows you to be proactive about your body. After all it’s the only vessel we have.

“Be proactive so you can be more active as you age.”
— Ho'omalamalama

Here are three important questions that you have to ask yourself.

  • Prevention - What can you do NOW to prevent or slowdown aging and disease?

  • Prep - Do you need to gather resources or hire a professional to help you?

  • Practice - How often do you want to practice this strategy?

Be Intentional

I've been designing wellness programs since 2011 and only recently understand what's missing.

What's Missing?

If you want to succeed you'll need to create a body strategy that includes a few key factors, one of them being consistency.

Be Consistent

I don’t know why but for some strange reason the word consistent makes people feel uncomfortable. Feeling as if it’s boring or dull but if you step into the world of business and investing that word makes millions. $$$

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Healthy habits matter.

The only reason why the diet industry is so lucrative is that they create marketing to contradict habits while seducing you to try their product or service.

Bottom line inconsistency makes millions upon millions. With each product launch and purchase you’re breaking a habit to make a new one.

Body strategy

You have to adopt a plan/strategy and maintain it! Regardless of outside interference you must be DEDICATED to your body.

 

Must participate in a wellness community. In-person or virtual.

The pandemic kept us apart and damaged our sense of community but the key to success lies within a community. And depending on the type of community you associate with will determine your success.

From new moms to cosplay there’s a community for every hobby and preference.

Body Strategy

The best way to create & maintain healthy habits is to join a community.

 

Willing to invest into your well-being.

Invest your time to learn, plan and implement the tools and resources you’ll need to succeed. Keep in mind that you, “Get what you pay for.”

That includes lack-of-knowledge because we pay for it with our health. Think about all the health risk that are associated with not knowing. For example it wasn’t until 1969 that warning labels were put on cigarettes, after many lives were loss due to throat cancer.

Body strategy

Invest with your time and then your dollars.

 

Create a plan and make it visible.

The best strategies are noticeable and seen often. Similar to the one we created for our members. They can pick and choose the sessions that would fit their lifestyle. I hope our members are printing these out in color.

Body strategy

In order for you to succeed you’ll have have to write out your strategy. Good News, I can help. Answer the following in the comment box below. And YES you have to comment because that’s part of the community experience, sharing is caring.

  1. What is your body goal? (More Energy, feel better, etc.)

  2. What day’s will you be working out. Daily or five/days minimum is ideal. (Walk, Cardio, Morning Burst, etc.)

  3. Do you have a planner or calendar?

The “strategy” happens when you write out your idea and commit to a time frame or in the business world create a dead-line.

 

Communicate, daily, with your wellness community.

Through social post, text or in-person sessions. We’re social beings and thrive in the presence of good vibes.

I don’t mean to get morbid but I learned that the first thing an abuser will do is isolate and cut off their victims support. Community is sanity… let me reframe. Healthy community is sanity.

Body strategy

Find a community you resonate with and an instructor you admire. Join

We have a no nonsense free session. It’s a great place to start and it’s virtual. You’ll also be enrolling n our e-newsletter and we’ll keep you updated. Join with the link above.

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  • Create beneficial habits.

  • Know thyself.