Here’s what happened…
I didn’t touch my blog or newsletter for 17-months.
Yikes!
I found myself navigating a divorce, along with unforeseen situations.
My intention was to revisit and complete the uploads but I couldn’t bring myself to wrap it up. Now I’m the type of person who likes to finish what she started but my plate was full. I went from being a full-time freelancer into getting a job and managing single parent life.
It was a blessing in disguise.
I know that it might sound counter intuitive to say that I’m grateful for the divorce, after all I preach aloha, ‘ohana, wellness and divorce sounds completely opposite. However in my case it was long overdue and in the best interest of my children..
How it happened sucked but the fact that it’s over makes all of my previous experiences a necessary step.
Divorce taught me
Follow your gut/intuition.
The only opinion that matters is my own and my children’s feelings.
Protect the circle, you and your children. Be alert on who’s speaking into your lives.
Make a list and do it, regardless on how you feel. Don’t make decisions based on emotions. Follow the plan.
Set up an award after every hard and difficult task. Mine was a taro latte with boba.
How I moved on.
Some days I drove to the water and watched the waves and on other days I went to the hot room at my local yoga studio. I didn’t cry much, I was too angry to cry so I had to learn how to forgive and release. Eventually I cried which felt good.
My spirituality didn’t waiver and I’m grateful to my grandmother who taught me how to walk in faith. Outside of my sister and brother-in-law, I had a consistent connection with my parents and my children’s Godparents. Even my church stepped up and I’ll always appreciate my pastor, Ashley Wilkerson, who told me, “I’m not one of those pastors who’ll tell you to stay in a broken marriage.” To which I said “AMEN” because the Christian faith will pressure women to stay in a toxic relationship but
gone are those days.
He can detox away from my children and me. Let me add that it’s important for you to know who is for you.
UPDATE:
I’m teaching an afterschool program and designed another program for a homeless shelter. Moving forward is important because YOU are meant for so much more.
Much ALOHA and remember to Walk Inn Beauty
