Overcome Imposter Syndrome

“Of all the feelings we could feel and thoughts we could think, Imposter Syndrome is actually a dis-ease to the creative process. ”

— Ho'omalamalama

Read

Or listen people who inspire you and were the under-dogs in their social circle.

Individuals who, inspite of their circumstances, went against the odds & succeeded.

Get into the habit of being “Inspired” and if you need help I actually wrote another blogpost called HOW TO SHOP FOR INSPIRATION. Click Here.

Repeat

Daily affirmations to point your "future self" into the right direction.

This is a powerful practice to shape your mind and create an awareness.

Your self talk can break or build you, so what are you saying to yourself? What’s going on in your thoughts? Is it building you?

This is where affirmations can help us. It’s a powerful tool to guide and refocus us.

I wrote a blogpost that’s dedicated to FOCUS and finding your Drishti. Click Here.

Reject

Anyone's opinion of you that doesn't align with your dreams, goals and ideas.

This includes personal doubts and stink'n think'n that's on loop in your thoughts. [loop: repeat]

What’s stink’n think’n you may ask? Well it’s any thought that WILL NEVER SERVE YOU or holding on to the negative opinions of others.

Start standing up for yourself!

Checkout a blogpost I wrote called, “How to become a Ninja Empath.” Click Here Which basically talks about standing up for your PEACE OF MIND.

REWRITE

Your goals list daily!

Okay, this is a big one but if you really want to kick imposter syndrome in the bum you NEED to do this step.

Make your mind see, read & write each goal.

This particular step is meant for the courageous, bold and someone who's tired of the status-quo. Warning ⚠️ positive change may occur.

I have an extra tip which is to create a vision board of your goals. You can create a single board for mind, body, soul, relationship and income goals or combine each realm.

“Vision your way into WHOLEness” is a blogpost I wrote that covers this topic. Click Here

Repeat

Steps 1-4 on a regular basis and get into the habit of forward thinking. Because that sneaky imposter syndrome will always try to bring you down.

The feeling of “I can’t” will never rest which is why you should always be vigilant. Enjoy your success and resist the urge to self sabotage.

Here’s the best part, I’ve written a blogpost just about this very subject. Click Here to read Resist the urge to self sabotage.

I also wrote another about overcoming the fear of success. Click Here.

Empath's Self Care Guide

In our first post, How to be a Ninja Empath, we asked “What if more empaths turned into ninjas and learned how to protect themselves from mana-suckers?” (People who drain your energy.) Then we created an Unofficial Empath Quiz designed to reveal if you are, in fact, an empath. The quiz is meant to be a lighthearted experience with your inner truth and embrace your gift.

We’ve been talking so much about empathy that it’s important to follow-up with the next part of the journey which is understanding self-care as it pertains to an empath’s needs. We’ve curated five steps, based off our experiences, to share with you. Also there’s a self guided e-course that you can participate in if you want to dive deeper. It will include PDF’s and much more.

“Those blessed with special gifts or talents are usually unaware. The moment they come into a place of knowing they’ll need to immediately learn how to protect their gifts. Because the world is full of jealous individuals wishing they were gifted. People blinded by envy and quietly waiting to destroy what they can not possess. Stay vigilant.”

— Ho'omalamalama

1. Routine Rituals of Self-Care

A series of actions performed in a certain order to provide consistent nourishment. Dedicated time, space & energy.

GOAL

Schedule, plan and invest in services or knowledge that will allow you to maintain your wellbeing. 

2. Journaling Thoughts & Feelings

Learn to separate yourself from the information you receive and write it down. In the form of dreams or what you sense and learn from others.

GOAL

Practice healthy habits to remind yourself that you are not your thoughts. Filter and identify your feelings from those around you.

3. De-Clutter Often

Create a lifestyle that allows you to evaluate what is around you. Place things into two categories; serving me or not serving me. This includes relationships, items, music, movies, publications and subscriptions.

GOAL

Use a clutter free environment to boost your energy and lifestyle.

4. Regular Workouts + Walks

Utilize fitness as a way to circulate and energize the body. This should be gold standard and a regular habit. Walking provides many physical benefits along with stress reducing advantages.

GOAL

Habit track your fitness routine or hire a coach.

5. Gather Like-Minded People

It's okay to be picky about who you allow into your inner circle. In fact guard this realm. Make sure to identify characteristics that you desire and associate with people who reflect your values.

GOAL

Know who "feeds" your soul and who "drains" your energy. Prevent & protect. 

Comment below: What action’s will you take at this moment?

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Want More?

We’ve been developing an e-course centered around our Ninja Empath blogpost. It’s designed to tap into your innate ability to protect by asking thought provoking questions and applying immediate action. We hope that it will offer an awareness and provide weapons of mass enlightenment. This can be completed on your schedule as it is a self guided course.

• Discover techniques to help you turn-off the chatter.

• Create positive self-talk and fall in love with being YOU.

• Learn the “5" rules of engagement.

• Apply resources and tools to guide you.

• Develop your intuition and confidence.

• Improve how you engage with the world.

• Use the PDF’s to dive deeper.

• BONUS: You can revisit this e-course as often as you need. (Depending on our relationship with the hosting platform.)

Free Version

If you prefer to to learn at your own pace & take notes. No PDF

Email E-Course

If you prefer independent study & prompts. PDF’s Included.

Video E-Course

If you prefer visual learning with bonuses. PDF’s + Ebook + Video

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Unofficial "Empath Quiz"

You’d be surprised

to know that many individuals who are empaths might not be aware. And if they are aware they might feel uncomfortable about revealing it to others.

• Mana suckers can pickup empath vibes. (Mana: strength in Hawaiian)

• Empath’s daily schedule can be affected by others.

• A non-empath isn’t affected.

So relax, take the quiz & comment on Instagram.

There’s a beautiful side to being an empath and I hope to bring light and joy to an important gift.

“This blog post should NOT be taken as medical or phycological advice. It’s for informational and educational purposes only. Please see a licensed professional. ”

— WholelisticFit and Ho'omalamalama

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Empath Quiz

Simply Answer YES or NO

The Following questions are meant to bring awareness and open your mind to the possibilities of being an Empath. Have fun and maybe include family members and friends.

1. I sense and feel things that I can’t explain, somehow my “gut feeling” is usually right.

YES/NO

2. I want to heal, help and restore others. It’s often at my own expense.

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3. I adore nature and feel strongly connected to a certain places.

YES/NO

4. I dislike bullies or people who take advantage of others, I crave justice.

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5. You kinda deal with imposter syndrome and you don’t know how wonderful you really are.

YES/NO

If you answered “YES” to all five questions then it’s likely that you could be an empath. Congrats.

Recognizing

Acknowledging your gift 🎁 is the beginning of a beautiful journey because denial only brings regret and shattered dreams. When you deny being an empath you’re unconsciously opening the door to being used, misunderstood and overwhelmed. You’ll spend your days regretting missed opportunities since you were consumed by someone else’s drama. Who consciously wants that life?

Once you accept your gift you’ll understand how and why you should protect it. You’ll become aware of intentions and will be able to navigate through relationships.

Becoming a Ninja Empath was my way of explaining to my son that he needed to protect his heart, mind and emotions. I want him to develop a healthy self image.

Something NEW

When I started writing this series I had no idea of its depth. The mother in me longs to protect my children but I realized that I need to teach them how to protect themselves. Learning self defense should be included with the ABC’s of reading. It should be elementary. (wink wink) That last line was a nod to Sherlock Holmes fans.

The blogpost has inspired a new online class I’m calling, “Empath E-Course” which is an empath’s self defense training. If you’d like more information visit the SHOP page or sign up for our newsletter.

Fall in LOVE with yourself.

We go through life waiting for someone to notice us, respect us, and maybe fall in love with us. Our hearts get crushed because our expectations aren’t met but it’s time we change our perspective. Shift our mind into loving ourselves.

I want to share with you the story of a beautiful soul and how she influenced me to become the woman I am today. My holistic lifestyle sounds fancy but I’m trying to relive her indigenous practices.

Josaphine Kauihailua (Manu) Lindsey is my great grandmother

DELIVERED: 6 Feb 1906 Hawaiian Kingdom

DEPARTED: 5 Aug 1996 (aged 90) Hawaii, USA

BURIED: National Memorial Cemetery of the PacificHonolulu, Hawaii, USA

Josephine K. Lindsey, 90, of Nanakuli, a supervisor for the University of Hawaii Extension-Hawaiian Language Club, died Monday in St. Francis Hospital. She is survived by sons Charles A. Manu, and David E. and Philip Kamai; daughters Josephine M. Kaawa and the Rev. Elizabeth K. Mahaulu; sister Victoria Clark; 15 grandchildren; 40 great-grandchildren; and a great-great-grandchild. Service: 1 p.m. Wednesday at Oahu Cemetery Chapel, 2162 Nuuanu Ave. Call after 10 a.m. Burial: National Memorial Cemetery of the Pacific, Punchbowl. Casual attire.

Source; The Honolulu Star-Bulletin
Friday August 9, 1996

Her early days are a mystery to my ‘Ohana it was purposefully hidden because of an unknown reason. Nevertheless she nurtured my siblings and I in the old way. When we were born she was there by our mother’s side. After feedings she swaddled us and took care of us until our next feeding. She washed all our cloth diapers, hung them up to dry, sang us to sleep, and spoke to us in Hawaiian. For the first three+ months our mother didn’t have to lift a finger.

La’au Lapa’au

She knew the healing art of plants and the seasons to gather from the uplands. Foraging for food from the lush vegetation or harvesting from the sea. We’re not sure how she learned her skills and I hope to find out.

What we do know is that her past was too painful to speak of, as was the life of many indigenous women across the globe. Hidden away, raised by pseudo grandparents and then delivered into the hands of a heartless aunt.

She never experienced love and for a brief moment her first marriage had love, to only loose him and then outlive two other husbands.

Picture by Nalani Bernado (My Anake) of Hilo, Hawaii

Vivacious

Magnetic

Innovative

Believer

Creative

Faith-filled

Destined

“Many of our ancestors left clues for us to succeed. They planted the seeds of their truth in hopes that we would nourish it and reap its fruits.”

— Ho'omālamalama

Self Care

When I was in elementary and attending Nanakuli Elementary my Kupuna was in the ‘Ohana home. We had four generations living under one roof.

Every morning she would wake up and do her morning stretches. Slow and steady, each move was intentional. Sometimes I would stretch with her, I miss those days.

For a woman who never had a mother to raise and teach her she somehow developed a beautiful self care routine.

Comment Below: What is the first thing you do in the morning?

Self Worth

My Kupuna didn’t allow the opinions of others to define her. And as often as she was shamed, oppressed, and belittled you couldn’t see a trace of it on her face.

She was unwilling to compromise and held a promise in her heart. That promise was,

For I am fearfully and wonderfully made. -Psalms 139:14

Her mindset was simple, I am valuable because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

Self Awareness

When she entered a room she was very aware of her surroundings, an acute sense she developed. Loneliness is a strange teacher. Although we crave for interaction, isolation has a way of heightening our senses.

Over time my Kupuna taught herself to read and the pages of the Bible kept her company. The promise of salvation was the lullaby of a warm embrace, meanwhile the staunch examples trained her mind to be steadfast.

Her birth wasn't an accident, she had purpose.

Self Confidence

Being broken down through economic circumstances, educational limitations, raped by an uncle as a teen, birthing a son, loss of a husband, than two more, being a woman, being a single mother, being forced out of your home by your last husband’s child because you don’t want to cause any more friction, homeless and somehow having faith.

No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue that accuses you in judgement you will condemn. -Isaiah 54:17

She was confident that her redeemer lives and revenge was not a part of her lifestyle. As she got older her faced beamed love. How remarkable.

Self Love

I’m not trying to sound religious because my Kupuna wasn’t. She didn’t believe in human nature or the promises of a man. A preacher is just a human reading the same Bible she had.

Throughout her time here on earth she clung to, “God is Love” and tried to live by it.

If God is love, I must also love. This love should continue to flow out of a body that is loved. Therefore I love myself. - Ho’omālamalama

Her struggles became my strengths and I live by her example. Essentially I hope they become your strengths too as you fall in love with yourself. Be kind, caring, and always forgiving to yourself.

One day or day one

I was sitting at my make-shift desk in an empty classroom waiting for inspiration. Do you know what that feels like? Waiting for the right emotion or a clear sign from the heavens to make my next move. Then I realized all this waiting isn’t changing my circumstances. In fact nothing changed because I didn’t take action.

Walking away from the unknown and taking responsibility can be daunting but what have you got to loose?

Seriously, do you like where you are?

I was self-coaching my brain into accepting a new mindset. Below are the steps I chose to follow and you’re welcomed to use them and PLEASE comment below your thoughts or if you have an extra step.

Finding mentors is the quickest way to making positive and long-lasting change. Let’s face it, DAY ONE in any situation can summon up fear and resistance. The best thing you can do, if you find yourself in this situation, is to ask for help.

When looking for mentors or helpful advice NEVER get it from anyone who's struggling. Sure they know how to identify a bad situation but if they’re still in it then they can’t be of any assistance to you.

Taking action is a powerful first step. I use to hear people quote bible scriptures but never act on the advice they preached. Once you add movement to your desire it will boost your self esteem, which is important.

You are undertaking something new and have to be patient with yourself. Little moments of celebration helps boost confidence, eventually aiding you in completing bigger task.

Putting the pressure on paper is and old technique my mom taught me. My childhood mind was very active and I often overburdened my parents with over-the-top questions. Writing down my thoughts and ideas help me to see, gather and compute my busy mind.

• See, visually looking at my thoughts gave me perspective.

• Gather, ideas that shared common goals or related in some form.

• Compute, decide what should I focus on at the moment. What do I have control over.

Take immediate action and feel the pleasure of marking one item off your list. This is the best feeling and it’s kind of addictive. Once you start marking things off you’ll want to do more. Pace yourself.

At the end of a week or month, after you’ve exhausted all of your energy and still have things on your list, consider engaging with a professional. Coaches come in all forms and genre.

Google characteristics of your ideal coach. [Ex: Fit Mom Coach] Check out their social platforms and ask yourself, “Does this person resonate with me?”

Other questions to consider:

1. Do you connect with their message?

2. Do they inspire you?

3. Can you learn from them?

Once you’ve decided on a few potential coaches contact them. When you choose a coach be very clear and don’t assume anything. Clarity is important and you have to share your expectations and overall goals.

Good Vibe Tribe

I started an e-newsletter because it seemed like the right thing to do. Then I was stuck, thinking that I had nothing to share and realized, “People need good vibes!” So my goal is to grow a GOOD VIBE TRIBE and share meaningful content to help my digital community.

There’s always the chance of a random newsletter coming through but generally I send them out every Aloha Fri-yay because it’s my favorite day of the week.

Below is a program I created for Squaxin Island’s SPIPA program. Super excited to work with families from local PNW tribes.

If you’re interested in my programs join the tribe.